Dating After Divorce, Is It Possible?

Scary and awkward but possible.

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With so many things in our society that factor into a relationship, it almost feels like walking on thin ice for a lot of people. While all of us want our marriages to mean something, In western society, sadly a lot of marriages end up in divorce. Whether you are young or old when this happens, the next step is often elusive and people find themselves lost. But realistically, for people who don’t want to be alone the cure is to move on and do some dating after divorce. Pick up lines, and first date rules can still apply but not so much as if you were single because the next person you will be dating probably has gone through a divorce too so sincerity is key. Here are some tips to make dating after divorce as smooth as possible.



Dating after divorce starts with accepting the fact that the dating game has changed. Apps and online sites are now the primary form of finding dates. Meeting people in-person still happens, but with far less frequency.


Enjoy it

You need to let the pressure go. Sure, you’re coming out of a disastrous marriage, but that doesn’t mean you have to be serious about everything in your life from here on. You have new wisdom and experience under your belt hence you can try dating with a new outlook on love. Don’t rush into your next relationship and just have fun. The more fun you have with yourself and your date, the more you can develop a meaningful relationship.


Do some lessons

You are likely nervous about getting back out there, and that’s okay. Start with a cooking, art, or archery class instead of jumping right back into the dating scene. Look some courses up online. Your social skills will need some work after being married for so long, this is a good opportunity to get that practice. And who knows? You may likely find a like-minded person in that class.


First date..again

When it comes to dating after divorce, there is no need for something fancy. choosing a public event, or venue like a farmer’s market (or something similar) for your first date is a very sincere thing to do. Since it’s a public space, your date will feel safe, but more than that—you won’t be caught wanting for conversation.


The second date

Choose a date that can help you form a bond with your potential new partner. Try something athletic like kayaking or hiking; or something community building like volunteering. You’re trying to get to know one another better. Since this is the case, stay away from booze.